Pathways

Oh, the mind! So grateful for it, even though it can drive us bats: quadruple-guessing decisions, rehashing arguments, pointing out shoulds galore. Overthinking can eclipse your body sensations, [...]

One of my favorite things to do in the summer is watch bees visit my lavender bush. It takes a moment to really notice them. At first I see the the bush, the splay of purple stems. Then I see [...]

“I didn’t sleep last night!” It’s not uncommon to hear this from new clients. They bemoan that their mind stayed on all night. They’re sure they didn’t sleep because they were [...]

Do you ever feel lonely or isolated? Maybe it’s when you’re by yourself, or feeling sad, anxious, unwell, or beating yourself up. We want to love ourselves, but sometimes we feel like a dog [...]

How do you live in your body? Do you drop in for occasional visits when showering, getting a massage, or walking in nature? Do you give your body the bare minimum (nurturing food, movement, and [...]

So many people feel great after a good cry—do you? Crying can release  endorphins, which eases pain and stress in the body and emotions. For a long time, I wasn’t able to cry very easily. I would [...]

As a sleep coach, I find there’s always more to uncover about rest. It might be daydreaming, relaxing before sleep, listening to podcasts, reading books. Or as Rest is Resistance: A Manifesto by [...]

Your poor eyes. If you’re like me, you spend hours behind a computer or staring at your tiny smartphone screen. So much looking, typing, watching videos, messaging, editing pictures, [...]

It’s December. The solstice is approaching. You wake in the dark, see the sun set before 5, and deal with rain, winds, fog and snow. Despite the dark and cold that calls for rest, this can be a [...]

Some people consider this the worst word: Should. “Shoulds are the inflexible, authoritarian, joyless rules for thinking, feeling, and behaving,” says therapist Michael Schreiner. Shoulds [...]