It’s how you relate to your nights that makes a difference.
Address what’s underneath your sleepless nights.
You’ve probably tried many things to help –
Like a gazillion sleep remedies, stress-reduction techniques, meditation, therapy, pushing through with coffee, and still you’re hanging on by a tiny, worn thread.
The thing is these don’t address the whole picture. Lack of sleep and exhaustion are usually not just one thing but a constellation of issues – physical, emotional, mental, attunement to who you are in the world. A single remedy isn’t going to really solve the problem unless you address the larger context.
Don’t you already know how to rest?
Rest seems simple, doesn’t it? You just stop and let go.
But it’s not always that easy.
That’s because things like a non-stop mind, tense body, rumbling anxiety, loneliness, and maybe jealousy of your partner asleep next to you &endash; all of those leave you frustrated and alert, even if your body is still.
Learn to replenish and welcome sleep.
To address the larger context and get the rest you really need, there are seven aspects to consider:
1. Sleep isn’t a thing to get, and chasing after sleep just keeps people awake. Good thing, though… with a new approach and skills you can create deep rest – of the body, mind, emotions, and self. Rest not only is the first step in the process of sleep, it also helps you renew (even in the face of insomnia), connect with your true self, and attract sleep.
2. I bet you’ve already heard of the elements for a peaceful bedtime cocoon – keeping it dark, quiet, and cool.
But things are not always in our control, are they? Believe it or not, you can shift how you relate to an imperfect environment, and create more space for you to move into deep rest.
3. It’s kinda hard to listen to your body – heck, even remember you have a body – when you’re caught up in errands, work, screens, or your mind. We create paths to settle into your body and learn from its wisdom, to support rest and your whole self.
4. A non-stop chattering mind – from serious issues to trivial concerns – can drive you to the edge, especially at night. But listen, your mind is not the boss of you! In this pathway, you learn how to change the relationship to the mind, so it has less power to keep you awake and tense (at night), and gets you more in your body and inner knowing during the day.
5. If you’re stressed out that even a simple hangnail brings up anxiety or anger – well, it’s hard to see life clearly. And at night, there’s little to distract from feeling overwhelmed. You can get rest and be more present in life, even in difficult emotional times by getting space around them to move into awareness and rest.
6. It’s a lonely and isolating road when it’s you against the world. And even more so when you’re awake while the rest of the world is asleep. Connecting to something bigger – be it family, community, nature, spirituality, whatever resonates with you – gives you resources to live your life and space to let go into rest.
7. It’s so easy to lose your connection with yourself in our culture that focuses on consumption, separation from others and the earth, and constant interruption and stimulation. When you’re out of alignment with your life, exhaustion and insomnia are frequent companions. Let’s explore your values and goals, and create a pathway to experience them in your daily life.