The insomnia club is not one I begged to join! – I bet you didn’t, either.
Over 15 years ago, I had an intense bout of chronic insomnia that lasted for eons. I woke most nights around 2 or 3 AM and could not fall back to sleep for hours. It wasn’t PMS, peri-menopause, or anxiety. I was just awake.
Nothing I tried helped – not strict sleep habits, not exercising in the evening, not magnesium, sleepy teas, melatonin… not nothin’!
I felt trapped.
I could struggle for sleep or get up and try do something useful. I might have gone the medication option, but – even over-the-counter sleep aids made me spacey the next morning.
Actually, I was already spacey… my days after insomnia were not good. I was cranky, zoned out, had serious blues, and wouldn’t even have made the playoffs if there were a Mom World Series.
Fortunately, after about a month or two of insomnia, I decided to do something at night I didn’t have time for during the day: practice personal growth techniques.
One of my life-long values is exploring how to be a better, more authentic and less-stressed person. That includes learning many techniques and perspectives in classes, therapy, and books. But learning is one thing, doing is how you make it stick.
At that time, I was too busy with young children to practice during the day. So I practiced at night what I was exploring at the time – things like feeling energy in my body, visualization, meditation (I tried, but I had absolutely no concentration).
Unexpected relief of deep rest
From that came the unexpected relief of deep rest, which changed my whole experience of sleepless nights… and even my days.
- It reduced the struggle at night, so I wasn’t tearing my hair out in hopes of sleep.
- Amazingly, it helped me be myself the next day, with better health and energy,
- And as a great bonus, it opened the door to restful sleep.
For the remaining year of that chronic insomnia journey, I investigated deep rest. It was clear that many things stood in its way – that yammering mind, anxiety, startling noises, loneliness.
I used plenty of nights to come up with techniques to manage those obstacles… which was the foundation of Restful Insomnia. In the years since then, I’ve added new skills and perspectives, adding more tools to help when sleep won’t come.
While that chronic insomnia is gone, I still have insomnia at times. However it’s no longer a problem because I know I can restore at night, and have productive, energized days.
How I got here
I’ve authored four books on brain function, personal energy, and of course, Restful Insomnia. I earned a degree in community affairs focused on counseling, and graduated the Coaches Training Institute, one of the few programs certified by the International Coach Federation. My certifications include hypnosis and neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), and I’ve avidly studied many personal development modes and communication, such as meditation, yoga, energy psychology, somatic body healing, Reiki, and more.
I’ve combined everything I’ve learned – and still learn – to create a powerful program to soothe your difficult nights and create the inner environment for sleep. The program includes coaching, online and in-person classes, online training, and speaking.
I love to help people find a new way to manage insomnia with curiosity, humor, and leading you on your path to nightly rest… all so you can live your fullest life.
Contact me if you’d like to have a free consultation, to assess your insomnia and discover if my method can help you get restful nights.
- I have two young adult children, and have become quite the fan of Ultimate (frisbee).
- I am a Pisces and a four on the Enneagram — I sure know about the land of emotions.
- I love to make fabric arts, like beaded embroidery and knitting. But I never make more than one of the same — hat, afghan, or scarf.
- While Zumba or Jazzercise make me feel like I’m in cheerleader tryouts — turn on music and I won’t stop dancing.
- I used to be a cat person until my kids begged me to adopt Sadie, the sweetest dog in the world. Although she may actually be a cat in a dog’s body.